Dating With Herpes: Sex and Honesty, Which One Is More Important?
If you are living with STDs, sometimes you have to rethink, take a look at your life and the way you handle STDs. When you have genital herpes, it can be uneasy to open up your health condition to your new partner or perhaps your already existing partner. The reason behind it is not always as tangible as the consequences of not telling your partner and being honest. In a quest to enjoy more unprotected sex and retain your lover or potential partner, you may choose to hide this health condition from them. Honesty remains a fundamental thing needed to sustain your relationship as well play safe.
Genital herpes has been on the increase, with several people who would have been safe contracting it. About half of the U.S population has the HSV-1, a release by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has it that one out of every six persons within the age of 14 to 49 live with genital herpes. While some infected individuals are not aware, others are, and they find it difficult to open up to their partner owing to the shame and perhaps the break up that may follow. This has been a primary cause of the increasing number of herpes patients, some people living with herpes prefer to hide their health status from their partner and opt to have protected sex. Having protected sex is good, but it is best if your partner knows that you are living with genital herpes because your risk of infecting your partner reduces to the barest minimum. Regrettably, the statistics of people with the genital herpes increases and some of these people don’t even know that they have it.
Telling someone that you have genital herpes does not always come easy, it is scary, full of unexpected reactions and feelings, but you have to do the needful. Imagine a scenario where you tested positive to the herpes diagnosis, you are now in a battle with your mind on how to let your partner know, just do it. Some persons would believe that keeping this to themselves and trying as much to play safe, maybe having protected sex will do. Research has it that "more than 10% of young adults with a laboratory-confirmed positive STD result reported abstaining from sexual intercourse in the 12 months before assessment and STD testing", this shows that they might not be honest in some ways. Some people lie about having several sex partners and STDs like herpes because they think it is socially unacceptable, this is called social desirability bias. It is a naïve idea that increases your risk of infecting your partner.
Many people misunderstand what the herpes virus is all about, little wonder they stigmatize people living with it. In as much as the genital herpes is an STD and no one would want to have it cheerfully, it is still a health condition you can live with as well enjoy your love life. People tend to overemphasize on genital herpes even more than so many other STDs; this is why some individuals living with this virus choose to hide it from their partner. Sometimes, they defile sexual testings and are less likely to take safety precautions. One thing is sure, true love cannot just die, a mere change in health condition should not cause a breakup, or a relationship quit. So, just be honest.
Despite the fear of rejection and being judged, honesty remains golden and should be a priority in every relationship especially when either of the partner lives with herpes. It is evident that people lie about their health condition not just because the disease is much scary, they lie because they don’t want to lose their sexual partner and perhaps get stigmatized. Be honest, open up to your partner, allow your partner to decide while you give them reasons why they should remain with you. Of course, it doesn’t always feel good to let your partner know who knows your partner may insult you, call your relationship a quit and make you feel like a shell of a human being. However, you don’t have to compromise your partner’s health, when you are honest with your partner about your health, you will have a relaxed mind and enjoy your relationship even more. Imbibe the habit of being honest with your lover or partner about your health, herpes is not an end to your love life. Suffice it to be that if your partner leaves you because you are truthful about your health, take it that such person is not meant for you. True love hardly dies, not even genital herpes can cause an end to such love.